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Isn’t God Being Unfair?

We might sometimes wonder whether God is being unfair in asking same-sex attracted people to give up having sex.

Firstly, sex isn’t essential to a happy and fulfilled life. Our culture may idolise sex, but God places huge value on singleness, friendship and deep community. We hope that you will be inspired by the stories on this website of single people living out their faith in Christian community. God is not asking for more from same-sex attracted people than anyone else. We are all called to either live single and celibate lives or marry someone of the opposite sex and have sex only with them. We’re all treated equally; some same-sex attracted people marry people of the opposite sex and lots of other-sex attacted people don’t.

We also need to consider what Jesus did for us when we’re thinking about the cost of following him. He willingly suffered torture, death and separation from his Heavenly Father in order to pay for our rebellion against God and to beat the sickness and death that came from that rebellion. He gave everything for us because of the depths of his love. Our natural and joyful response is to stop our rebellion and run into the arms of our loving Father.

Jesus clearly taught that following him would mean giving up our old ways of doing things, giving up putting ourselves first, and following him wholeheartedly. This will sometimes be painful, it should always be costly, but it will always be worth it.

God is not being unfair when he asks for our total obedience. In fact, it’s the only way for us to be truly free and fulfilled. It will be painful at times as we live selfless, counter-cultural lives, but this is what all Christians, whatever their sexuality, are called to do.

‘Then Jesus said to his disciples, “Whoever wants to be my disciple must deny themselves and take up their cross and follow me.”’
Matthew 16:24