Stubbornness and Same-Sex Attraction

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I am stubborn. Anyone who has lived or worked with me knows that. I was born that way. Nobody made me stubborn. It came completely naturally to me.

I am same-sex attracted. Anyone who has heard me in recent years knows that. I was born that way. Nobody made me same-sex attracted. It came completely naturally to me.1

Both my stubbornness and my same-sex attraction have had a negative impact on my life (and the lives of others).

My stubbornness leads me into sin: fighting my corner when I am wrong.

My same-sex attraction leads me into sin: lusting over the beauty of another man.

These sins need to be repented of – despite how naturally they have come to me.

But both my stubbornness and my same-sex attraction have also had a positive impact on my life (and the lives of others).  

My stubbornness has prevented me from sinning: enabling me to swim against wrong cultural trends. 

My same-sex attraction has prevented me from sinning: undermining the ugly self-righteousness that also comes very naturally to me.

So, I can also rejoice in how God has mercifully used them for good in my life – despite how much damage they have also done to me and others.  

  1. I explore some of the controversies around these statements at greater length in this article: ‘Why are Some People Same-sex Attracted?’.

Published 2nd January 2023